by Michael Sorgiovanni | Jun 28, 2015 | Quotes, Relationships, Self Development & Success Skills, Spirituality
Love is Free!
I will use this amazing statement with different people on a weekly basis, and what this actually means is being present in yourself and only yourself.
Understating that love is free and everyone has their own free will. Love can not be manipulated, it can not be controlled.
Love is the most powerful source in existence and if there is one thing everyone of us have in common is we all seek it on some level.
When you try to control love it is going to give you a certain reaction and no matter what the context, Relationships -family- friends. Trying to control and cage love is equivalent to an atomic bomb waiting to explode.
Love means letting go, if you love someone or something you let it free and this also refers to yourself, as everything is merely a reflection of you anyway.
Much Love
Michael Sorgiovanni
by Michael Sorgiovanni | Jun 14, 2015 | Business, Lifestyle, Natural and Alternative, Physical Wellbeing, Psychological and Emotional Wellbeing, Self Development & Success Skills, Spirituality, Uncategorized
Are you in need for some motivation? Or do you think you need some more time to think about it?..:-)
Motivation would have to be one of the largest topics on the Internet in the context of self-improvement, and there are many great articles and recourses that will assist you. But.. There seems to be a misconception with some individuals and that is if someone that is lacking motivation in their life and has a severe case of procrastination means they have a psychological problem and require therapy. I mean there is no doubt that there is a greater issue to someone that has a severe case, but if it is just an issue with procrastination does is require a therapist or psychologist? I would say no!
Procrastination is merely a state just like motivation they both have emotions that drive them, and as I have mentioned in previous articles, any state you desire can be achieved in seconds.
In life there is always a positive in every situation and procrastination doesn’t necessarily have to be a negative it is sometimes required to get us to think logically before we make a decision, and prevent those regretful situations.
Then there’s that other type of procrastination the negative type “The Time Thief”. This type of procrastination does have a positive but it does require you to take action and get off your ass and do something as appose to nothing.
There are two types of Motivation and to have the best results in dealing with procrastination it would be to recognize which approach will work best for yourself and the situation.
- Towards Motivation: is when we put more emphasis on the benefits of doing something, we move towards a goal and it is our values and feelings that drive us in the context of what we are intending to achieve. We are driven by all the positive vision’s or feeling’s that will lead us to success.
- Away From Motivation: is when we put more emphasis on the negative results we might get by not taking action. We focus on the vision or feelings we would have if we failed or just didn’t do anything. This way is refereed to, as the negative way of motivation however is very necessary in some situations and individuals.
With self-motivation you can break new grounds, learn new things, change your circumstances and give your life new meaning.
Here are 10 ways to get motivated:
1. Mind
Engage your mind daily in something new and challenging. Try filling in a crossword, listen to new music, read a book and allow yourself to be challenged. Purpose to learn something new every single day.
2. Organize
Planning is important. When everything is disorganized it loses meaning. Plan ahead. Plan for the next day at work from what to wear to what to eat and you will anticipate to see that day so as to live through the activities you have planned.
3. Talk
Verbal communication is what makes the world go round. Make a new friend, talking to other people opens a new scope of thinking as you learn new cultures and new ways of doing things, and a new appreciation of life develops.
4. Insight
This refers to a new level of understanding. The only way to get insight is by being open to learn from others, being daring enough to take up new activities and get challenged. A broader understanding brings self-drive.
5. Variety
Doing the same things can be boring. Take a trip, change your wardrobe, change your hair or try out something new. Variety spices up your life. You will be surprised at the things you can do.
6. Attitude
Optimism cannot be over emphasized. To get motivated the glass should always be half full in your eyes. From the worst of circumstances, look for the very best and express gratitude.
7. Teach
Teaching what you know to somebody else brings satisfaction and spreads joy leaving you fulfilled and encourages you to know more.
8. Incentive
Reward yourself. A personal incentive encourages discipline.
9. Opportunity
When we look around us, there are a lot of things that we can do differently and change our circumstances. Cease every chance to better your life and learn new ways to grow and assist others.
10. Nurture
Improve on the skills you already and learn more every day. From the simplest of things like how to bake something new to the more complex things like learning how to play an instrument.
Motivation is all inside you. Your mind is your limitation.
Get a picture of what you want to achieve and see how it makes you feel, get right in that experience and hear what is going on there, really be associated and hold that picture in you mind and repeat this process over and over until you are there. This simple process will get you out of procrastination an into motivation.
Much Love
Michael Sorgiovanni
by Michael Sorgiovanni | May 24, 2015 | Physical Wellbeing, Psychological and Emotional Wellbeing, Self Development & Success Skills, Uncategorized
Would you like to feel energised in your daily life and not feel tired and drained?
Physical fitness is the most important tool for keeping your body young and active and to play a vital role in your daily activities. It prevents your body from many avoidable issues like overweight, laziness, dullness and many other negative impacts that can harm your mind and body. Research has shown that exercising regularly will deliver a mental and emotional boost. It improves your mood, bolsters your self-esteem, and gives you confidence to handle whatever comes your way. Some studies show that it also enhances the functioning of your brain and can greatly alleviate and in some cases prevent the symptoms of depression. It has uncountable effects and benefits to your health. Below are just a few benefits to gain by training.
Exercise Controls Weight
Exercise or training is very helpful regarding your weight control or weight loss. With physical training you burn your excess calories that are one of the causes of overweight. You do more exercise and you will burn your more calories. There are many ways and types of exercises such as running, jogging, weights, or taking training from a physical trainer who will give you various tips so that you may have a better training. Building muscle is important in the process of loosing weight, when your muscles grow it illuminates the capacity for fat cells to grow or be fed. We all know that fat does not turn into muscle but by building the muscle that fat will dissipate, as it is not being fed. The male and female body form very different in weight training and what is clear is women don’t get big they tone where as men seem to grow in mass.
Training Battle Health Condition and Diseases
In today’s busy and exhausting life we have not enough time to properly care our health. There are many diseases like heart problems, cholesterol increase, high blood pressures, hypertensions and other life threatening issues that everyone is facing nowadays. What training and the exercises do to counter all these problems is that it regulates your blood level very well and burns the extra fats in your body that are the main cause of all above mentioned problems. If you have a smooth blood flow in your body, so you are at low risk to prevent these diseases. Physical training and exercises can regulate your blood level with great ease and calmness so it is very much important for you to have a proper exercises schedule in your daily life.
Training gives you Energy
It is quite sure that regular exercises can give enormous strength to your muscles and as a result your energy level also rises and keeps you active and healthy. Training supplies oxygen and required blood to your body muscles more efficiently. Thus, your different body parts like heart, lungs, kidneys and all other parts somehow produces energy that you require. So for all these positive results and to have an active and energetic life, it is quite important that you must follow up exercises and training well if you want to live a healthy positive life.
Better Sleep
As exercises and training can regulate your blood level and supplies oxygen to your muscles. So, if you have all these things working perfectly, then you will sleep well and that guarantees a sound healthy condition. For a perfect health it is advised that you must sleep about 6 to 8 hours daily. A good night’s rest can make you less fatigued and better able to function in your daily life.
One of the best psychological benefits of exercise is just feeling great overall. One could argue that this is a physical benefit of exercise, however the psychological benefits greatly contribute to this overall great feeling.
Much Love
Michael Sorgiovanni
by Michael Sorgiovanni | May 17, 2015 | Physical Wellbeing, Psychological and Emotional Wellbeing, Relationships, Self Development & Success Skills, Spirituality, Uncategorized
In Life we are blessed with the ability to make choices, we can choose how we want to feel, we can choose what direction we travel in, and we can choose who we surround and share our lives with. One thing is guaranteed that every choice made will have a consequence, whether it will be a positive or negative consequence is determined by your choice.
There are two main directions you may travel in life; one being the “Victim” and the other the “Victor” . As humans we are born a victim, and it is through our schooling, our religion, our society that teaches us how to become a better victim in life. So many people will find more excuses for why they didn’t do something they wanted to do.
As spiritual being’s having a human experience we can’t but help being curious, and it is when we see a different perspective that feels right, we tune into the Victor. The Victor is the winner, he see’s truth and balance and seeks solutions to issues at hand. The Victor knows that responsibility is the key to freedom.
Who do you choose to be in your life?
The Victim or
The Victor.
Your were born to choose and live as the Victor.
Much Love
Michael Sorgiovanni
Living Your Power Now
by Michael Sorgiovanni | Apr 22, 2015 | Business, Lifestyle, Natural and Alternative, Physical Wellbeing, Psychological and Emotional Wellbeing, Relationships, Self Development & Success Skills, Spirituality, Uncategorized
Have you ever experienced an event that was shared with a group of people and all had recalled the event in different ways?
Have you ever noticed that some people just don’t get it they just don’t see it the way you see it? Or may be you felt you just couldn’t connect with someone?
Would you like to know why this?
Life is a journey of communication we are meeting people all the time whether it be a relationship/friendship or just a short conversation at the local supermarket, we are connecting with people on different levels all the time. So in a sense it is essential to know how to communicate and understand how each individual and ourselves processes internally.
Our communication usually starts with our thoughts, then resulting in words, tonality and body language. One of the ways to define “thoughts” is how we use our senses internally.
We use our senses inwardly to represent experience to ourselves, and outwardly to perceive the world. Some examples to recalling experiences are, Remember the last time you went to the beach, what’s the first thing that appears in your mind? Maybe it’s a picture of the beach or it could be the sound of the ocean waves that you recall, or maybe you recall the feeling of being relaxed at the beach or the feeling of the sand on your feet as you walk.
If you were to ask a group of employees to describe their manager, the chances are that you will get a variety of answers. One employee might recall him by the way he dresses and how his hair is and then followed by the sound of his voice and then maybe then recall how he makes he or she feel when he is around.
The method of storing and taking in information in our minds through our five senses (Seeing, Hearing, Feeling, taste and smell) are known as Representational Systems in Neuro Linguistic Programming.
In each individual our internal representational systems are different, meaning we all have our own favoured representation processing. You might be a person that is more Visual, Auditory, Kinesthetic (feelings), or Auditory Digital (self Talk)
Statistics suggest that in a developed country, people are predominantly;
- 60% Visual (V) Seeing
- 20% Auditory (A) Hearing
- 20% Kinesthetic. (K) Feeling
You’ve probably heard people say things like “I see what you mean,” or “I hear you.” These are not just cute euphemisms, but insights into how that person’s mind is working.
Once you know someone’s primary representational system, you can speak in a way that’s pleasing to- and gains rapport with their unconscious mind.
Our favored representational system becomes our own language for our experience and plays a significant part in our mental processes and consciousness.
Want to know what different behaviours each Representation System display’s?
How about knowing what to look for when communicating with a person to gain a stronger rapport?
I take it you said yes.
Clink in this link and answer each question to find out your primary representational system
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Favoured Representational Systems results:
V: Visual
People who are visual often stand or sit with their heads and/or bodies erect, with their eyes up and breathe from the top of their lungs. They often sit forwards in their chair and tend to be organized, neat, well groomed, and orderly. They are often thin and wiry. In particular they use gestures a lot, which tend to be nearer head height and have no problem throwing their hands in the air. When memorizing, they do so by seeing pictures and are less distracted by noise. They often have trouble remembering verbal instructions because their minds tend to wander. A visual person will be interested in how your program LOOKS. Appearances are important to them.
Cues to look for:
- Breathing: Top of Lungs
- Speech Rate: Fast
- Physical Cues: Often gesturing with hands
- Predicates: See, look, and watch…
- Other Cues: Speak in a higher pitch
A: Auditory
People who are auditory will quite often move their eyes sideways. They breathe from the middle of their chest. They typically talk to themselves (some even move their lips when doing so) and can be easily distracted by noise. An auditory person can repeat things back to you easily as they learn by listening and generally like music and talking on the phone. They memories by steps, procedures, and sequences. They may move their lips when they’re reading. The auditory person likes to be TOLD how they are doing and responds to a certain tone of voice or set of words. They tend to use auditory predicates such as, “that rings a bell” or “that clicks”, and are interested in what you have to say. Auditory people can be excellent listeners and enjoy music and spoken voice.
- Breathing: Middle of chest
- Speech Rate: Medium
- Physical Cues: Mild hand gestures
- Predicates: Listen, hear, sounds like…
- Other Cues: May tilt head in a conversation
K: Kinesthetic:
People who are kinesthetic will typically be breathing from the bottom of their lungs, so you’ll see their stomach go in and out when they breathe. They often move and talk very slowly. They respond to physical rewards and touching. They use few hand gestures and generally stand within close proximity to the person they are talking with. They use predicates such as, I want to get a handle on it or a firm foundation and will be able to access their emotions more readily. The kinesthetic person is interested in how you feel and memories by walking through the process or doing it. Their handwriting is more rounded and it is likely that they’ll push more firmly on the page. They will be interested in your program if it “feels right”, or if you can give them something they can grasp.
- Breathing: Bottom of lungs
- Speech Rate: Slow
- Physical Cues: Few hand gestures, usually stands close
- Predicates: Gripping, feel, rough, soft, hard…
- Other Cues: Deeper voice, takes longer pauses
Ad: Auditory Digital
This person will spend a fair amount of time talking to themselves. They will want to know if your program “makes sense”. The auditory digital person can exhibit characteristics of the other major representational systems. Auditory Digital’s place a high value on logic and also like detail. They use words, which are abstract with no direct sensory link. They use predicates like, “I understand your motivation” or “makes sense to me”. As their emotions are often attached to the words that they are using to describe, they often are less emotionally attached to outcomes (double dissociation).
- Breathing: Sometimes lower abdomen
- Speech Rate: Sometimes slow
- Physical Cues: Reserved
- Predicates: Sensible, understand, calculate, analyse…
- Other Cues: Often not emotionally attached to outcomes
Enjoy and Have fun with this information.
Much Love
Living Your Power Now
Michael Sorgiovanni
by Michael Sorgiovanni | Apr 5, 2015 | Business, Lifestyle, Natural and Alternative, Physical Wellbeing, Psychological and Emotional Wellbeing, Relationships, Self Development & Success Skills, Spirituality
Making decisions by far is your most powerful asset which enables change. Things will not change in your life without the making a decision. Every experience you have and have had in life, where significant change and success occur, it is stemmed and created from a decision. Our dreams and desires become reality just from making one decision.
If there are areas in your life where you are not satisfied, all you have to do is start making some positive decisions to change them, this is your key to getting all you desire in life and becoming the person you want to be in the future.
Like anything in life that provides us with positive results and substance it usually takes a certain amount of commitment to see results.
“Decision-making is an act of choosing between two or more actions”.
Making a decision can be a difficult process for people and something we witness everyday whether it be in business and in other aspects of life. Some people just can’t make decisions, leaving others to make the decisions for them; resulting in an outcome they don’t necessarily want in life.
The truth of the matter is we are consistently making decisions everyday, sometimes its an unconscious decision, these daily decisions could be choosing between the apple or the banana or choosing what to wear. More in depth decisions are the one’s that change our lives, our future, wouldn’t it be great if these decisions were as easy to make as the simple day to day one’s.
Let’s discuss some ways that you can go about making life-changing decisions.
Realize your power to make decisions.
Before making any major decision in your life, check your decision making ability.
If you were to assess yourself on a daily basis on the decision’s you make in comparison to the ones you delegate or redirect to someone else because your not comfortable or even fearful, what would be the percentage? Acknowledging every decision that you make will be your first step to empowering your ability. Everyday you are put in situations that you must make a decision; if you don’t there will be consequences.
“With every decision there will be a consequence, whether it will be a positive one or negative one is up to you”.
A great way to view decision making is from the perspective that making a decision is like building a muscle, like any muscle, the more you train it, the stronger it becomes and the better the results will be.
Act upon your decisions.
There is no point in making a decision and not following it through. When you make a decision, you also need to take relevant actions to make it ‘real’.
A real decision has a cut off period, how long you think of something you create in your mind without following it through with actions, determines the outcome of it being a life changing decision or just a fantasy.
If you want to make some changes in life, then make it a habit to commit to your decisions, by taking action your thoughts and following it through until it is completed. By having consistent practice, you will be confident about your next decision.
Learn from your past decisions.
If you failed to follow through a decision and decide you’re ready for the desired outcome that lead to you making that decision initially; review the decision. Was there a reason subconsciously you hadn’t followed it through?
On the other hand, have you regretted an outcome from a decision you have made before and are now faced with again?
Ask yourself what you can learn to make a better decision next time.
Go with your instinct.
Some people take too much time to decide or are afraid of what will happen next. They go through all the pro’s and con’s of the decision, deep exploration and cautious planning. Bee confident and trust your instinct about your decisions.
Every life changing decision is made on an unconscious level so you need to start trusting your intuition.
You trust your unconscious mind to breath for you while you sleep at night and keep your heart beating… so there is no reason you can’t trust the first thought that comes to your mind.
Explore your options and select the best solution.
If you are satisfied with your decision, and it feels right then decide when you will ‘action’ it. Big decisions can have some risk factors, if you are unsure, you might want to use a risk analysis approach-prioritize and evaluate the best option to take. If it is a major decision you might want use some tools like the Decision Matrix Analysis Approach, this is particularly useful if you there is a lot to consider.
Have fun making decisions.
Sometimes the decision making process is not fun at all, but could be if you were to ‘decide’ to make it a fun experience. Treating it like a game and having fun with it, will expose a lot about yourself. It opens up your creative side.
Your decisions can have a profound effect later on. With every decision you make, be present, and acknowledge how it empowers you and makes you feel.
Much Love
Living Your Power Now
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