Wanting to mingle but unable to because you’re single – is what most single people are saying amidst the coronavirus outbreak.
We are in a time right now where physical dating cannot take place. This for the singles wanting to date means that it must be placed on a temporary hold. There is a lot of uncertainty at the moment with not knowing what is going to happen and extra financial pressures. We can expect a rise in feelings of loneliness in this period.
The dating apps may seem pointless right now and it may be challenging to be optimistic when you have had such a social life. You may not even feel comfortable or excited to ‘date’ any other way right now. With all that being said it is still no reason to discourage yourself for being single and here is why…
Prior to this pandemic happening, the dating world had become so fast-paced. It was around 2018 where swiping became more of a priority than dating or getting to know someone. Now don’t get me wrong the swipe apps are an amazing addition as for too long online dating platforms weren’t performing. Filled with many lost, disheartening experiences as people weren’t following through to meet in person. Instead, pre-framed scripted messages took over the desire to physically meet.
With our current situation, the pressure to move from ‘match’ to ‘meet-up’ has eased. We are in a time right now to form connections or better yet a connection with someone special. There are so many great opportunities right now in the world of dating.
Answer me this question… do you think your dating game would be easier if the guys with the one night hook up intention were filtered out or better yet even pushed to open up and show their real side?
There was an amazing love story that happened in the middle of these crazy times. Two people improvised while being quarantined – Love Story During A Pandemic
In all this of, this is key to understand… people are being more open than ever.
If you’ve ever wanted deeper connections, to go beyond ‘the walls’ and the ‘crap’ you have been challenged with in the past – now is the best time to make it happen.
Through history some of the deepest and raw connections have been formed in times of war, pandemic and isolation with heart opened letters, phones calls and text messages. We are fortunate to live in a time that we have many little ‘ice breakers’ to get chatting with someone and even have a virtual date.
Here are some points to consider in this period…
We are all in this together – whether you are single or in a relationship, we are all going through something. These times can bring the most pressure to relationships, with so many people losing their job and feeling the financial impacts of running a household with no wages. Others have completely lost their businesses or have taken a significant hit. The whole world has paused, but we have paused together.
When the outer world caves in, our inner world has a way of coming out.
What’s your one thing? Each person has one (or more) thing(s) they are going through a right now and they don’t have a choice but to work through it.
Some people have had their relationships and dating on a back burner and now it is in their face. Some people have had some mental challenges and have not wanted to look at them however this period is bringing it up. For others, it may be financial patterns or business struggles etc.
The point I am getting at is that this can be a period where you just watch Netflix and binge eat away or you could ask yourself when this is over how do I want to come out the other end? How can I use this time to my advantage? What can I work on in myself? Is there something you have always wanted to do but couldn’t because you didn’t have the time? What would you like your life to be like once this is over?
Connections – it may be a time to push aside the shy girl to create and strengthen some connections. Reach out to people you know, get on a video call and have some fun discussions. Crack open a bottle of wine or even just check-in to see if someone is ok.
Dating – in the near future FaceTime dating will become a standard thing (as an option of course). There are many benefits to having a virtual date. So many platforms now on Messenger and FaceTime have games you can play as you interact.
This could be a new and adventurous thing for many people that have not tried online dating. No need to waste money on buying a new outfit or expensive makeup.
It is safe and can happen in the comfort of your own home.
You can leave when you want and do not need to drive home.
You can gauge easily if they do not fit with your standards, for example someone that may try to break the social distancing at first may not be someone you want to continue with.
You don’t have to worry about physical intimacy expectations, although this may have some negatives it has powerful positives if you want to create a long-term lasting relationship.
“Relationships are formed over time, not in one setting or experience”
Things to do on your online date:
1.Voice call/video call or voice messaging
2. Play a game – most apps like ‘Messenger’, ‘FaceTime’ and ‘Houseparty’ have joint games to play. This could be a great ice-breaker.
3.Have a drink or meal together – buy the same wine and share a glass over video chat, you could also cook together on video.
4. Watch a movie together – have a planned movie to watch together and talk about it as though you were in each other’s company.
5. Get to know each other on a deep level – play a game that involves some deep questions.
If you live alone and happen to be single right now, know that you’re not alone we are all in this together. Use the time to get to know a couple of matches, you never know it could be the relationship you’ve always been waiting for.
Love and live,