by Michael Sorgiovanni | Apr 22, 2015 | Business, Lifestyle, Natural and Alternative, Physical Wellbeing, Psychological and Emotional Wellbeing, Relationships, Self Development & Success Skills, Spirituality, Uncategorized
Have you ever experienced an event that was shared with a group of people and all had recalled the event in different ways?
Have you ever noticed that some people just don’t get it they just don’t see it the way you see it? Or may be you felt you just couldn’t connect with someone?
Would you like to know why this?
Life is a journey of communication we are meeting people all the time whether it be a relationship/friendship or just a short conversation at the local supermarket, we are connecting with people on different levels all the time. So in a sense it is essential to know how to communicate and understand how each individual and ourselves processes internally.
Our communication usually starts with our thoughts, then resulting in words, tonality and body language. One of the ways to define “thoughts” is how we use our senses internally.
We use our senses inwardly to represent experience to ourselves, and outwardly to perceive the world. Some examples to recalling experiences are, Remember the last time you went to the beach, what’s the first thing that appears in your mind? Maybe it’s a picture of the beach or it could be the sound of the ocean waves that you recall, or maybe you recall the feeling of being relaxed at the beach or the feeling of the sand on your feet as you walk.
If you were to ask a group of employees to describe their manager, the chances are that you will get a variety of answers. One employee might recall him by the way he dresses and how his hair is and then followed by the sound of his voice and then maybe then recall how he makes he or she feel when he is around.
The method of storing and taking in information in our minds through our five senses (Seeing, Hearing, Feeling, taste and smell) are known as Representational Systems in Neuro Linguistic Programming.
In each individual our internal representational systems are different, meaning we all have our own favoured representation processing. You might be a person that is more Visual, Auditory, Kinesthetic (feelings), or Auditory Digital (self Talk)
Statistics suggest that in a developed country, people are predominantly;
- 60% Visual (V) Seeing
- 20% Auditory (A) Hearing
- 20% Kinesthetic. (K) Feeling
You’ve probably heard people say things like “I see what you mean,” or “I hear you.” These are not just cute euphemisms, but insights into how that person’s mind is working.
Once you know someone’s primary representational system, you can speak in a way that’s pleasing to- and gains rapport with their unconscious mind.
Our favored representational system becomes our own language for our experience and plays a significant part in our mental processes and consciousness.
Want to know what different behaviours each Representation System display’s?
How about knowing what to look for when communicating with a person to gain a stronger rapport?
I take it you said yes.
Clink in this link and answer each question to find out your primary representational system
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Favoured Representational Systems results:
V: Visual
People who are visual often stand or sit with their heads and/or bodies erect, with their eyes up and breathe from the top of their lungs. They often sit forwards in their chair and tend to be organized, neat, well groomed, and orderly. They are often thin and wiry. In particular they use gestures a lot, which tend to be nearer head height and have no problem throwing their hands in the air. When memorizing, they do so by seeing pictures and are less distracted by noise. They often have trouble remembering verbal instructions because their minds tend to wander. A visual person will be interested in how your program LOOKS. Appearances are important to them.
Cues to look for:
- Breathing: Top of Lungs
- Speech Rate: Fast
- Physical Cues: Often gesturing with hands
- Predicates: See, look, and watch…
- Other Cues: Speak in a higher pitch
A: Auditory
People who are auditory will quite often move their eyes sideways. They breathe from the middle of their chest. They typically talk to themselves (some even move their lips when doing so) and can be easily distracted by noise. An auditory person can repeat things back to you easily as they learn by listening and generally like music and talking on the phone. They memories by steps, procedures, and sequences. They may move their lips when they’re reading. The auditory person likes to be TOLD how they are doing and responds to a certain tone of voice or set of words. They tend to use auditory predicates such as, “that rings a bell” or “that clicks”, and are interested in what you have to say. Auditory people can be excellent listeners and enjoy music and spoken voice.
- Breathing: Middle of chest
- Speech Rate: Medium
- Physical Cues: Mild hand gestures
- Predicates: Listen, hear, sounds like…
- Other Cues: May tilt head in a conversation
K: Kinesthetic:
People who are kinesthetic will typically be breathing from the bottom of their lungs, so you’ll see their stomach go in and out when they breathe. They often move and talk very slowly. They respond to physical rewards and touching. They use few hand gestures and generally stand within close proximity to the person they are talking with. They use predicates such as, I want to get a handle on it or a firm foundation and will be able to access their emotions more readily. The kinesthetic person is interested in how you feel and memories by walking through the process or doing it. Their handwriting is more rounded and it is likely that they’ll push more firmly on the page. They will be interested in your program if it “feels right”, or if you can give them something they can grasp.
- Breathing: Bottom of lungs
- Speech Rate: Slow
- Physical Cues: Few hand gestures, usually stands close
- Predicates: Gripping, feel, rough, soft, hard…
- Other Cues: Deeper voice, takes longer pauses
Ad: Auditory Digital
This person will spend a fair amount of time talking to themselves. They will want to know if your program “makes sense”. The auditory digital person can exhibit characteristics of the other major representational systems. Auditory Digital’s place a high value on logic and also like detail. They use words, which are abstract with no direct sensory link. They use predicates like, “I understand your motivation” or “makes sense to me”. As their emotions are often attached to the words that they are using to describe, they often are less emotionally attached to outcomes (double dissociation).
- Breathing: Sometimes lower abdomen
- Speech Rate: Sometimes slow
- Physical Cues: Reserved
- Predicates: Sensible, understand, calculate, analyse…
- Other Cues: Often not emotionally attached to outcomes
Enjoy and Have fun with this information.
Much Love
Living Your Power Now
Michael Sorgiovanni
by Michael Sorgiovanni | Apr 5, 2015 | Business, Lifestyle, Natural and Alternative, Physical Wellbeing, Psychological and Emotional Wellbeing, Relationships, Self Development & Success Skills, Spirituality
Making decisions by far is your most powerful asset which enables change. Things will not change in your life without the making a decision. Every experience you have and have had in life, where significant change and success occur, it is stemmed and created from a decision. Our dreams and desires become reality just from making one decision.
If there are areas in your life where you are not satisfied, all you have to do is start making some positive decisions to change them, this is your key to getting all you desire in life and becoming the person you want to be in the future.
Like anything in life that provides us with positive results and substance it usually takes a certain amount of commitment to see results.
“Decision-making is an act of choosing between two or more actions”.
Making a decision can be a difficult process for people and something we witness everyday whether it be in business and in other aspects of life. Some people just can’t make decisions, leaving others to make the decisions for them; resulting in an outcome they don’t necessarily want in life.
The truth of the matter is we are consistently making decisions everyday, sometimes its an unconscious decision, these daily decisions could be choosing between the apple or the banana or choosing what to wear. More in depth decisions are the one’s that change our lives, our future, wouldn’t it be great if these decisions were as easy to make as the simple day to day one’s.
Let’s discuss some ways that you can go about making life-changing decisions.
Realize your power to make decisions.
Before making any major decision in your life, check your decision making ability.
If you were to assess yourself on a daily basis on the decision’s you make in comparison to the ones you delegate or redirect to someone else because your not comfortable or even fearful, what would be the percentage? Acknowledging every decision that you make will be your first step to empowering your ability. Everyday you are put in situations that you must make a decision; if you don’t there will be consequences.
“With every decision there will be a consequence, whether it will be a positive one or negative one is up to you”.
A great way to view decision making is from the perspective that making a decision is like building a muscle, like any muscle, the more you train it, the stronger it becomes and the better the results will be.
Act upon your decisions.
There is no point in making a decision and not following it through. When you make a decision, you also need to take relevant actions to make it ‘real’.
A real decision has a cut off period, how long you think of something you create in your mind without following it through with actions, determines the outcome of it being a life changing decision or just a fantasy.
If you want to make some changes in life, then make it a habit to commit to your decisions, by taking action your thoughts and following it through until it is completed. By having consistent practice, you will be confident about your next decision.
Learn from your past decisions.
If you failed to follow through a decision and decide you’re ready for the desired outcome that lead to you making that decision initially; review the decision. Was there a reason subconsciously you hadn’t followed it through?
On the other hand, have you regretted an outcome from a decision you have made before and are now faced with again?
Ask yourself what you can learn to make a better decision next time.
Go with your instinct.
Some people take too much time to decide or are afraid of what will happen next. They go through all the pro’s and con’s of the decision, deep exploration and cautious planning. Bee confident and trust your instinct about your decisions.
Every life changing decision is made on an unconscious level so you need to start trusting your intuition.
You trust your unconscious mind to breath for you while you sleep at night and keep your heart beating… so there is no reason you can’t trust the first thought that comes to your mind.
Explore your options and select the best solution.
If you are satisfied with your decision, and it feels right then decide when you will ‘action’ it. Big decisions can have some risk factors, if you are unsure, you might want to use a risk analysis approach-prioritize and evaluate the best option to take. If it is a major decision you might want use some tools like the Decision Matrix Analysis Approach, this is particularly useful if you there is a lot to consider.
Have fun making decisions.
Sometimes the decision making process is not fun at all, but could be if you were to ‘decide’ to make it a fun experience. Treating it like a game and having fun with it, will expose a lot about yourself. It opens up your creative side.
Your decisions can have a profound effect later on. With every decision you make, be present, and acknowledge how it empowers you and makes you feel.
Much Love
Living Your Power Now
by Michael Sorgiovanni | Mar 25, 2015 | Lifestyle, Natural and Alternative, Physical Wellbeing, Psychological and Emotional Wellbeing, Self Development & Success Skills
“What you think and say you co-create”.
You are probably familiar with the fact that those who are positive in their approaches are more successful than who are not.
Negative thinking can act as a prison- you can end up feeling trapped as it blocks your mind, clouding it with negative influence and chatter, all which can so easily be avoided. So why do people make excuses, is it all too hard? There is no such thing as hard, it may not be easy but is it necessary to label something as hard? The words we use are so crucial to what we intend to achieve and feel.
Words like “Hard” and “Cant” have no depth, all they do is enforce and empower the things we don’t want in life, they stand as obstacles to what we truly desire. They diminish our will and motivation… Such words should not be part of our vocabulary as they impact so much.
It is up to you to be conscious and aware of your language, the more consistent you are on catching yourself on saying or thinking something negative the more powerful your mind and energy expands positively. In effect, it will then become easier to be consistent with processing positive thoughts.
Positive thinking gives you the hope to face challenges in the life vs negative thinking where you loose hope. Having a positive psychology and optimistic nature, you can lead a successful, happy and healthy life.
Some of the sound effects of positive thinking are as follows:
Stress Free Lives
Positive thinkers have a greater advantage to counteract ‘sorrow and grief’ than negative thinkers or pessimists. The optimist can encounter stressing situation well and show braveness, they can resolve issues with their calm state and positive outlook. They ask others for feedback and advice.
Optimism improves Human Health
Not only can positive thinking impact your ability to cope with stress, it impacts your immunity and your overall well-being. The Mayo Clinic reports a number of health benefits associated with optimism, including a reduced risk of death from cardiovascular problems, less depression, and an increased lifespan. Other researchers suggest that positive people lead healthier lifestyles.
Resilience
Our ability to cope with problems is effected by positive thinking and resilient people are able to face a crisis with strength. They have the ability to carry on and overcome adversity.
It may come as no surprise to learn that positive thinking can play a major role in resilience. When dealing with a challenge, optimists typically look at what they can do to fix the problem, instead of giving up hope, they seek resources and are willing to ask others for help.
Researchers have found that in the wake of a crisis, such as a terrorist attack or natural disaster, positive thoughts and emotions encourage thriving, they provide a ‘ buffer’ against depression.
Key to Success
Positive people are more likely to be successful than the negative ones. The moment you implement positive thinking into your life, you will notice that success becomes easier and it’s not as tough and difficult as once perceived.
Boost Motivation
Positive attitude will boost your motivation and you will start to achieve your goals quickly and easily. To have strong motivation is like having “wings”!
Beauty will shine from within
Positive thinking will make you look more beautiful. Honestly, it really does! There is something really attractive about friendly and happy people. Their inner beauty shines and impacts what is visible to others on the outside.
These are just some effects and benefits that you will only get if your thinking is positive and when you avoid negative thinking.
We all need to stop and think what is this phase going to look like when it’s over. Remember you are the architect of your life, you can ‘draw’ on the outcome you want.
Positive Psychology is achieved by “discipline and being consistent in your thoughts and actions”.
“How you think out ways what you actually desire.”
Much Love
Living Your Power Now
by Michael Sorgiovanni | Mar 21, 2015 | Natural and Alternative, Physical Wellbeing, Psychological and Emotional Wellbeing, Self Development & Success Skills, Uncategorized
“Behind every decision made there needs to be a reason or some kind of value to motivate you to make that decision”.
Having a strong immune system is one of the most powerful assets you could have in your life and I will do my best to help you understand why?
If I were to ask you do you enjoy being sick? I’m sure your instant answer would be no. No one enjoys being sick, however unfortunately getting sick is something that happens to us all. What if I told you we are in control of when we get sick and what sickness you get? We fail to see that from a conscious level we manifest this, and it goes deeper than just conscious, it’s from a subconscious level too.
Why subconscious? We are programming and processing from 95% of an unconscious level at all times. Your conscious mind provides 5% less cognitive activity during the day, and 5% is for people that are more aware, there are a great number of people that operate just 1% consciousness.
Majority of ‘illnesses’ begin with emotions and it is at a subconscious level that these illnesses are developed. “Our conscious mind actually commands and your subconscious mind obeys”. How does one control our subconscious? Well first let’s explore our Immune system and where the immune system fits into this…
There is an area in the brain called the hypothalamus and it is responsible for translating emotions into physiological responses. It regulates blood sugar levels, body temperature, your appetite and bodily systems – such as the heart, lung, circulatory and digestive systems – by receiving emotions from neuropeptides.
Neuropeptides are chemical hormones that carry emotions back and forth between the body and the brain. Neuropeptides (almost completely) link the thoughts in your brain to the organs in your body, by doing so in that way affecting every bodily system, including the disease-fighting system.
When you have fear based or stress related negative thoughts, your body responds by turning off the immune system, but if your conscious and subconscious mind powers are matched up with positive thoughts your body responds with improved healing and health.
So before you find natural ways for boosting your immune system, it is important to eliminate the things that can result in immune system disorders. For examples, as previously mentioned negative thinking, stress and depression and bad habits like smoking. Limit the things that can weaken your immune system because when your immune system is not strong, it gets easy for viruses and diseases to attack the body.
Here are a few helpful ways for boosting your immune system and improving your body’s potential to fight disease, because a stronger immune system will help you to live a longer healthier life.
Positive thinking and Meditation
- Start your day of with positive thoughts, and picture how you want your day to turn out vs what you don’t want to happen.
- Meditate – Give yourself 5-10 minutes everyday to find that piece within yourself by breathing, focusing on your breath by being present. Note: Many people convince themselves that they don’t have a spare10 minutes, if you find your self doing this STOP! “Its not true”.
Eat Low-Fat and Healthy Foods
- Try to include those foods in your diet that helps to boost your immune system, such as olive, brown rice, cantaloupe, broccoli, leafy greens, apples and oranges. Analyze your food intake by listing the kinds of food that you eat regularly and consume healthier food.
- Eat leafy greens, vegetables, fruit, whole grains and beans for building your body’s resilience to fight illness. Include poultry and fish in your diet as these foods provide strength to the body.
- Avoid high-fat desserts. It is okay to have a desert sometimes on special occasions. However, avoid intake of deserts regularly as the immune system starts to weaken if there is a consistent intake of high-fat diet food which eventually results in serious illness.
- Cut down on large quantities of red meat and dairy products – these foods contain large quantity of fat that are not digested easily. It is necessary to reduce fat from your diet to strengthen your immune system.
- Educate yourself in understanding the significance of balancing your intake of minerals and vitamins. Too much of a good thing can result in an imbalance and result in mineral and vitamins not performing their dutie to help protect you.
Exercise to Improve your Defence System
- If you do not exercise now, then start now. There are so many advantages for your body by simply starting an exercise program.
- Walk daily for at least 30 minutes. Keeping the body moving and sweating helps in boosting your immune system.
Consider Cancer-Fighting Foods and Medicinal Herbs
- Drink black tea and green – they contain indoles, tannins and bioflavonoids. All antioxidants aids in fighting cancer.
- Eat garlic as it is a strong health enhancer. Its powerful properties stabilise and protect the immune system. The Iowa Women’s Health Study found that women with the highest amounts of garlic in their diets had a 50 percent lower risk of certain colon cancers than women who didn’t consume high amounts.
- Eat cruciferous veggies eg. cauliflower, cabbage, kale, all have cancer fighting components. Broccoli is also a cruciferous vegetable and is the only one with a sizable amount of sulforaphane – a potent compound that boosts the body’s protective enzymes and flushes out cancer-causing chemicals. According to Jed Fahey, Scd this helps fight breast, liver, lung, prostate, skin, stomach, and bladder cancers.
Other cancer fighting foods are:
- Berries, which help fight colon, esophageal, oral, and skin cancers
- Tomatoes, which help fight – endometrial, lung, prostate, and stomach cancers
- Walnuts, which help fight breast and prostate cancers
- Beans, which help fight breast and colon cancers
Always remember
“Your body is your temple and the immune system is your foundation”
Much Love
Living Your Power Now
by Michael Sorgiovanni | Mar 14, 2015 | Anxiety, Lifestyle, Natural and Alternative, Physical Wellbeing, Psychological and Emotional Wellbeing
Lifestyle and diet changes are required to overcome anxiety and depression without going down the path of medications that don’t provide a cure. There are some super foods that will help you to cure anxiety and depression, whereas there are also some foods that will contribute to depression and triggers anxiety. All you have to do is to make right choices that can cut down on the amount of anxiety you experience drastically and also helps in improving your mood. Here is the list of some food to overcome depression and anxiety.
Foods to Assist with Depression
Oranges
Oranges have complex and natural sugars, which are best for your body. Oranges also contain flavonoids and multivitamins that are necessary antioxidants to hinder the symptoms of mild depression.
Turmeric
Turmeric is popular for its anti-inflammatory properties. It consists of an active ingredient, Curcumin that has anti-depressant and therapeutic properties.
Dairy
People, who are conscious about their weight normally avoids dairy products, however dairy products are a rich in protein, calcium and vitamin D, which are great for the body. Dairy products are also a big source of specific peptides and nutrients which help in creating relaxation and a sense of well-being, ultimately fighting depression.
Green Tea
Green tea is famous for its positive effects on metabolism, slow signs of aging, helping with weight loss and most importantly, it is popular for its wonderful antioxidant properties that are very good for your body. This drink also has anti-depressant properties, due to the presence of amino acid, known as theanine. This amino acid occurs naturally in tea leaves and helps in providing relaxation from depression.
Foods to Assist with Anxiety
Acai Berries
Acai berry is the new super food rich in phytonutrients helps to reduce anxiety.
Almonds
Almonds contain zinc, which is a key nutrient to maintain a balanced mood. Almonds also have healthy fats and iron. Increased iron levels control brain fatigue, whereas healthy fats are a significant part of a balanced diet. Both of this can contribute to anxiety and a lack of energy.
Chocolate
Chocolate, specifically pure dark chocolate with low milk and sugar is also a great food for those living with stress and anxiety. Chocolate helps in reducing cortisol. Cortisol is a stress hormone that causes the symptoms of anxiety. There are also some other compounds in dark chocolate that helps enhance your mood.
Whole Grain Foods
Studies have shown that whole grains have several advantages for those with anxiety, such as magnesium deficiency can cause anxiety and whole grains are rich in magnesium. Whole grain works as a calming neurotransmitter as it contains tryptophan. Whole grains help to create healthy energy and reduce hunger – both significant to control for anxiety.
Much Love
Living Your Power Now
by Michael Sorgiovanni | Mar 4, 2015 | Lifestyle, Natural and Alternative, Physical Wellbeing, Psychological and Emotional Wellbeing, Self Development & Success Skills, Spirituality
All the complex chemical reactions of the body take place at the cellular level. For example, the building of new blood cells, sending of nerve signals or repairing of wounds. Moreover, the new cells replace old cells when they die, to ensure the proper and healthy functioning. However, everything that happens in the human body completely relies on nutrients. Among the 6 essential nutrients, Minerals and Vitamins are the two most important ones.
Difference between Vitamins and Minerals
Minerals are inorganic compound nutrients can be metabolized to release energy in the body. Vitamins are organic nutrients that are destructible. However, minerals cannot create energy and are indestructible, whereas organic nutrients can be destroyed or altered.
What is the Link between Vitamins and Mineral?
Vitamins and Minerals are often required to work together. For instance, Vitamin C and calcium works together in the process of depositing calcium in teeth, Vitamin D helps in raising the amount of phosphorous and calcium in the blood to ensure the presence of minerals to harden bones.
Essential Vitamins and Their Functions
Here is the list of some essential vitamins and minerals and their benefits for the body.
This vitamin is good for general growth and development, such as skin, healthy teeth and healthy eyes. The natural sources include sweet potatoes and carrots.
These vitamins are good for iron absorption, energy production and immune function. Some of the natural sources include molasses, whole grains, bananas, potatoes, lentils, beans, chili peppers and yeast.
This vitamin is good for strengthening blood vessels, iron absorption, anti-oxidant function and giving skin its elasticity. The major source of Vitamin C is citrus fruits.
Vitamin D is best for healthy and strong bone. Some major sources include sunlight, fish, eggs and mushrooms.
Vitamin E is good for protection from free radicals and blood circulation. The major source of Vitamin E is dry fruits.
Vitamin K is best for Blood coagulation. This Vitamin is generally found in leafy green vegetables.
Minerals and Their Functions
This mineral is good for preventing birth defects in pregnancy and cell renewal. Some of the sources of folic acid include corn, nuts, lentils, peas and beans.
Calcium is good for strong bones and teeth. The best source of Calcium is found in dark greens and dairy products
Iron is good for maintaining healthy blood and building muscles naturally. Iron can be found in spinach, lentils and beans.
Different Functions of Vitamins and Minerals
Vitamins do several jobs, as they are energy nutrients, such as acting as antioxidants and breaking down other nutrients. In contrast, minerals work mainly on the skeleton; however, they can also interact with water for regulating the pH balance in the body, transmission of nerve impulses and for the contraction of muscles. Vitamins are essential for the creation of red blood cells and Minerals are necessary to carry oxygen for oxygen through the blood.
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