“You are born alone, and you die alone”
As confronting as the above quote might be, it actually is the truth. You were born into this world a beautiful soul and humanised into the body you now reside in. A spiritual being with a purpose to have a human experience of individuality.
In current times, If there were to be a reason why so many relationships end and mental and physical illness is on the rise, It would be from humanities biggest form of abuse over the previous centuries.
“The Neglected Self”
Humans have abused theirselves for too many years by neglecting the one true thing they came into this world with.
We live in a time where it is common to search for love to be loved, people expect good health with bad health choices, and people seek a positive life with negative ways. ~ Conflict at its best!
“The is no greater power on this earth than self love, “.
If you love yourself others can love you, and love is something you chose to give to others, it is not a need nor a requirement. The only “must” is the love you give yourself because is sets the foundation of your whole life, to how you think, how you feel, how your treated in this beautiful world we live in.
When you love yourself you will…
1. Respect your body – educate yourself on food and exercise and give your body what it requires.
2. Respect your Mind – Expand your consciousness, develop emotional intelligence and do what is required to think positive, feel and live positive.
3. Connect – seek truth in all things that make you happy, respect the earth and all its creatures, fill your soul with joy. Remember how to breath and tune into the world of absolute.
~The world can only change when you do~
If I were to ask you how your day begins and how does it ends? What would you say?
Peace and Love
In the past 15 years I have invested in transforming my life and studied various forms of self-improvement modalities, and if there were to be something profound and simple that I could take from all of the years and lessons and share it in an article it would be the topic of being present.
What does being present mean to you?
I think firstly experiencing and understanding what not being present would assist and benefit you in really knowing what being present in life actually is.
Ok so here’s a short spill:
Our “System” is designed in such a way to condition and program an individual to think and live in the future and past but to not to stay in the present.
One of the reason’s anxiety and depression are on an all time high is because the lack of truthful education provided to people. We live in a time where diagnosis and prescription are the answer for people’s issues and all preventatives and solutions are a form of holistic practice or something that is deemed as uncommon to real life.
We are amazing creative multi dimensional beings and are not designed to be medicated and imprisoned. We are here to experience life and experiment with it to grow and evolve into self-loving manifesting people.
One of the greatest positive changes you can make it to start thinking outside the box. This term is used a great deal in many areas, for this purpose, practice it in the context of your life and journey as a whole and the true answers will just suddenly appear to assist.
If you follow these 3 things I guarantee that the world you see will change profoundly.
Create a gratitude journal. Write three entries in it every morning of things that you are grateful for in you life. Most of us wake up every morning thinking and trying to plan the day out and sometimes overwhelm ourselves with thoughts and this sets our whole mood and energy for the day. If you start your day off with a positive mindset it will reflect through out the course of the day.
Your brain has been programmed to think a certain way and the only way to change the program is through reputation. Three things you are grateful for everyday for the rest of your life!
If you are grateful for life then you are living in the present. The majority of our society is living in the future, putting expectations on life and in their minds creating events that haven’t taken place yet that causes anxiety. Anxiety in most common cases is merely a person experiencing an event in the future, that hasn’t even taken place yet. It has become a form of normal thinking that most people have no clue on what they are actually anxious about anymore.
If you do your research you will find that the most happy and successful people in the world have a gratitude ritual that they do everyday.
Stop watching the daily news.
Think about this just for a minute.
Your Brain/Neurology is designed to be programmed by the environment and information you feed it, and then to create the paradigm that you live in and experience everyday.
If your are watching a box that delivers nothing but negative stories and experiences from around the world then your perspective on the world is gong to be a negative one. There is so many miracles and positive things happening everyday, you just have to open to seeing them. If you are always focussing on the negative you are not allowing yourself fully to be open to the positive that is all around you. If you are concerned about missing the news, reality is stories that are important will always find their way to you through socialising or some other form of social media platform.
As impossible as this might seem to some of you reading this, if you were to give up watching the news every night It is guaranteed that how you see the world will change significantly in a short period.
Take Responsibility for the way you feel.
The easiest thing you can do is blame someone for the way they made you feel.
It is impossible for someone to make you feel a certain way because they are your emotions that you are feeling not someone else’s. Take responsibility for your own emotions, every experience you have in life whether it be negative or positive there is something important to learn form it. If there is something you don’t like in someone than it is only a reflection on something you don’t like in yourself because how else would you know you didn’t like if it wasn’t presented to you.
Treat life as a school the more you learn the more you excel.
When you take responsibility for your own feelings and actions it is where the healing begins and as you acknowledge these qualities and behaviours in yourself you begin to shift, change and grow as a person and the experiences you have with people change to more positive ones.
There is beauty in everything and everyone and the way to see it all is to see it in you first.
“Clear the Clutter and Be Present”
Enjoy, I intend that this has a profound and positive impact in your daily life.
Life can be this vicious journey that can provide experiences that appear unfair to the average person and I’m sure everyone reading this has had several events in their life that has left some kind of painful event to remember.
These experiences usually take place in our relationships and whether it be a loving relationhsip, friendship or family it is some kind of relationship. There is one common outcome to all these these experiences and it is that one relationship is left with the pain and the emotions to deal with. That relationship is with yourself.
Something happens on an emotional and neurological level when we experience a traumatic event, it creates a seperation.
Our emotional experiences throughout life, and especially during the early imprint years can result in the creation of Parts at the unconscious mind. These Parts generate their own values and beliefs, and are responsible for certain behaviour’s. Overwhelming feelings and reactions, as well as out of control behaviour’s are the result of ‘Conflicting Parts’.
There is a very successful modality called parts intergration I use for these conflicts and it is a useful skill to overcome ‘bad habits’, indecision, procrastination and all sorts of internal conflicts. What it does is bring the part back home to wholeness where it first was before these emotional experiences. All this can be avoided for the future if we create a relationship with ourselves once again.
The relationship that we truly have is with ourselves. Regardless of what stage of life you are one, you experience growth at every step and allow experiences to happen along the way giving you potent life lessons. Have you ever experienced that moment when your inner voice criticizes you for being a size too much and also some time you hear a part of you saying that you are absolutely amazing! This is just a small example of how divided (Part) we are within ourselves.
There are things that we consider as very good and others that we consider bad. Acting without a shred of reflection has the ability to unfurl your Karma that would seem random at best. You always have the power to respond, but if you have the internal awareness then you can prevent a reaction too.
To have the ability to acknowledge that everything has positive and negative aspects and that they all come from within induces a sense of calm. If you see something you don’t like, accept it as a part of life and don’t fight it. If you can remain unaffected by negativity, you will be able to rise above it and do the same for positivity too.
Wholeness is about homeostasis, a state of constant balance within you and the effort to make it so. Sometime we get too excited and soon after experience the state of lowest low. This is what happens when you play with your inner balance. It can be very uplifting when you learn to be calm and composed. It may be perceived by others as numb, but it is a far cry from it!
Here are some ways you can strengthen your relationship with self and become one complete person.
- Stop Judging: If you can learn to walk a mile in someone else’s shoes, rest assured that you are prepared to walk a lifetime in your own! You should have a natural ability to see and appreciate beauty amid flaws. It will not be easy to look past the imperfections but when you do, you will know how to value yourself.
- Care less: No, I am not asking you to be self centered who doesn’t care about the world, but I also don’t want you to lose yourself in caring too much. This is what I call as restoring balance to your mind and heart. Compassion must stem from within and you should know when to say no. This will only happen when you respect yourself enough to hold your own.
- Don’t undermine your self-worth: Don’t be a second choice to someone, don’t settle for less than you deserve. Love yourself enough to have the courage to accept the things that do not weaken your value in your own eyes.
- Learn to let go: we hear this a lot, let go this and that. But, what does it really mean? Simply put, it means no strings attached and this is no glorified phrase. To let go is the power to not hold on to things even though when you clearly know how it debilitating it is. If it is not good enough, have the strength to walk away.
- Be forgiving: forgiveness is just as much of consequence to others as it is to you. Life starts from where you end resentment and fear. Someone hurt you yesterday are no reason to hate the world for the rest of your life. Free yourself from your self-imposed prison of grudges and hard feelings. You need to forgive to free you.
- Always see glass half full: Ever felt delusional with pain that it took the better part of your rationality? Has bitterness of years slowly chipped away your sweetness? It doesn’t matter what others think but you know in your heart that this world is not entirely a lost cause, that there is still beauty in it. By changing your thoughts, you can alter the reality, so why not make it fine-looking and positive?
- Always walk straight ahead: To move on does not mean to forget, it just means that you are in acceptance of what happened in the past and you choose to live in the present. It surely doesn’t mean giving up. It means that you pick happiness over misery and are willing to give yourself another chance to set the scale right.
Wholeness is all about harmonizing your mind, body and soul. It is about living your life in such a way that all the aspects of your life become intertwined with one another through coordination. When you are whole, it means that you are never regretful of the choices that you made, even if these choices alter your external reality. A person who is whole will understand this and will be able to make the best choices.
Life is to be lived through your own eyes not your inner conflicts, behaviours and habbits, Only you know when it is time for you to clear all that is holding you back from shining.
Have a wonderful day
Lifestyle and diet changes are required to overcome anxiety and depression without going down the path of medications that don’t provide a cure. There are some super foods that will help you to cure anxiety and depression, whereas there are also some foods that will contribute to depression and triggers anxiety. All you have to do is to make right choices that can cut down on the amount of anxiety you experience drastically and also helps in improving your mood. Here is the list of some food to overcome depression and anxiety.
Foods to Assist with Depression
Oranges have complex and natural sugars, which are best for your body. Oranges also contain flavonoids and multivitamins that are necessary antioxidants to hinder the symptoms of mild depression.
Turmeric is popular for its anti-inflammatory properties. It consists of an active ingredient, Curcumin that has anti-depressant and therapeutic properties.
People, who are conscious about their weight normally avoids dairy products, however dairy products are a rich in protein, calcium and vitamin D, which are great for the body. Dairy products are also a big source of specific peptides and nutrients which help in creating relaxation and a sense of well-being, ultimately fighting depression.
Green tea is famous for its positive effects on metabolism, slow signs of aging, helping with weight loss and most importantly, it is popular for its wonderful antioxidant properties that are very good for your body. This drink also has anti-depressant properties, due to the presence of amino acid, known as theanine. This amino acid occurs naturally in tea leaves and helps in providing relaxation from depression.
Foods to Assist with Anxiety
Acai berry is the new super food rich in phytonutrients helps to reduce anxiety.
Almonds contain zinc, which is a key nutrient to maintain a balanced mood. Almonds also have healthy fats and iron. Increased iron levels control brain fatigue, whereas healthy fats are a significant part of a balanced diet. Both of this can contribute to anxiety and a lack of energy.
Chocolate, specifically pure dark chocolate with low milk and sugar is also a great food for those living with stress and anxiety. Chocolate helps in reducing cortisol. Cortisol is a stress hormone that causes the symptoms of anxiety. There are also some other compounds in dark chocolate that helps enhance your mood.
Whole Grain Foods
Studies have shown that whole grains have several advantages for those with anxiety, such as magnesium deficiency can cause anxiety and whole grains are rich in magnesium. Whole grain works as a calming neurotransmitter as it contains tryptophan. Whole grains help to create healthy energy and reduce hunger – both significant to control for anxiety.
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