by Michael Sorgiovanni | May 17, 2015 | Physical Wellbeing, Psychological and Emotional Wellbeing, Relationships, Self Development & Success Skills, Spirituality, Uncategorized
In Life we are blessed with the ability to make choices, we can choose how we want to feel, we can choose what direction we travel in, and we can choose who we surround and share our lives with. One thing is guaranteed that every choice made will have a consequence, whether it will be a positive or negative consequence is determined by your choice.
There are two main directions you may travel in life; one being the “Victim” and the other the “Victor” . As humans we are born a victim, and it is through our schooling, our religion, our society that teaches us how to become a better victim in life. So many people will find more excuses for why they didn’t do something they wanted to do.
As spiritual being’s having a human experience we can’t but help being curious, and it is when we see a different perspective that feels right, we tune into the Victor. The Victor is the winner, he see’s truth and balance and seeks solutions to issues at hand. The Victor knows that responsibility is the key to freedom.
Who do you choose to be in your life?
The Victim or
The Victor.
Your were born to choose and live as the Victor.
Much Love
Michael Sorgiovanni
Living Your Power Now
by Michael Sorgiovanni | Apr 22, 2015 | Business, Lifestyle, Natural and Alternative, Physical Wellbeing, Psychological and Emotional Wellbeing, Relationships, Self Development & Success Skills, Spirituality, Uncategorized
Have you ever experienced an event that was shared with a group of people and all had recalled the event in different ways?
Have you ever noticed that some people just don’t get it they just don’t see it the way you see it? Or may be you felt you just couldn’t connect with someone?
Would you like to know why this?
Life is a journey of communication we are meeting people all the time whether it be a relationship/friendship or just a short conversation at the local supermarket, we are connecting with people on different levels all the time. So in a sense it is essential to know how to communicate and understand how each individual and ourselves processes internally.
Our communication usually starts with our thoughts, then resulting in words, tonality and body language. One of the ways to define “thoughts” is how we use our senses internally.
We use our senses inwardly to represent experience to ourselves, and outwardly to perceive the world. Some examples to recalling experiences are, Remember the last time you went to the beach, what’s the first thing that appears in your mind? Maybe it’s a picture of the beach or it could be the sound of the ocean waves that you recall, or maybe you recall the feeling of being relaxed at the beach or the feeling of the sand on your feet as you walk.
If you were to ask a group of employees to describe their manager, the chances are that you will get a variety of answers. One employee might recall him by the way he dresses and how his hair is and then followed by the sound of his voice and then maybe then recall how he makes he or she feel when he is around.
The method of storing and taking in information in our minds through our five senses (Seeing, Hearing, Feeling, taste and smell) are known as Representational Systems in Neuro Linguistic Programming.
In each individual our internal representational systems are different, meaning we all have our own favoured representation processing. You might be a person that is more Visual, Auditory, Kinesthetic (feelings), or Auditory Digital (self Talk)
Statistics suggest that in a developed country, people are predominantly;
- 60% Visual (V) Seeing
- 20% Auditory (A) Hearing
- 20% Kinesthetic. (K) Feeling
You’ve probably heard people say things like “I see what you mean,” or “I hear you.” These are not just cute euphemisms, but insights into how that person’s mind is working.
Once you know someone’s primary representational system, you can speak in a way that’s pleasing to- and gains rapport with their unconscious mind.
Our favored representational system becomes our own language for our experience and plays a significant part in our mental processes and consciousness.
Want to know what different behaviours each Representation System display’s?
How about knowing what to look for when communicating with a person to gain a stronger rapport?
I take it you said yes.
Clink in this link and answer each question to find out your primary representational system
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Favoured Representational Systems results:
V: Visual
People who are visual often stand or sit with their heads and/or bodies erect, with their eyes up and breathe from the top of their lungs. They often sit forwards in their chair and tend to be organized, neat, well groomed, and orderly. They are often thin and wiry. In particular they use gestures a lot, which tend to be nearer head height and have no problem throwing their hands in the air. When memorizing, they do so by seeing pictures and are less distracted by noise. They often have trouble remembering verbal instructions because their minds tend to wander. A visual person will be interested in how your program LOOKS. Appearances are important to them.
Cues to look for:
- Breathing: Top of Lungs
- Speech Rate: Fast
- Physical Cues: Often gesturing with hands
- Predicates: See, look, and watch…
- Other Cues: Speak in a higher pitch
A: Auditory
People who are auditory will quite often move their eyes sideways. They breathe from the middle of their chest. They typically talk to themselves (some even move their lips when doing so) and can be easily distracted by noise. An auditory person can repeat things back to you easily as they learn by listening and generally like music and talking on the phone. They memories by steps, procedures, and sequences. They may move their lips when they’re reading. The auditory person likes to be TOLD how they are doing and responds to a certain tone of voice or set of words. They tend to use auditory predicates such as, “that rings a bell” or “that clicks”, and are interested in what you have to say. Auditory people can be excellent listeners and enjoy music and spoken voice.
- Breathing: Middle of chest
- Speech Rate: Medium
- Physical Cues: Mild hand gestures
- Predicates: Listen, hear, sounds like…
- Other Cues: May tilt head in a conversation
K: Kinesthetic:
People who are kinesthetic will typically be breathing from the bottom of their lungs, so you’ll see their stomach go in and out when they breathe. They often move and talk very slowly. They respond to physical rewards and touching. They use few hand gestures and generally stand within close proximity to the person they are talking with. They use predicates such as, I want to get a handle on it or a firm foundation and will be able to access their emotions more readily. The kinesthetic person is interested in how you feel and memories by walking through the process or doing it. Their handwriting is more rounded and it is likely that they’ll push more firmly on the page. They will be interested in your program if it “feels right”, or if you can give them something they can grasp.
- Breathing: Bottom of lungs
- Speech Rate: Slow
- Physical Cues: Few hand gestures, usually stands close
- Predicates: Gripping, feel, rough, soft, hard…
- Other Cues: Deeper voice, takes longer pauses
Ad: Auditory Digital
This person will spend a fair amount of time talking to themselves. They will want to know if your program “makes sense”. The auditory digital person can exhibit characteristics of the other major representational systems. Auditory Digital’s place a high value on logic and also like detail. They use words, which are abstract with no direct sensory link. They use predicates like, “I understand your motivation” or “makes sense to me”. As their emotions are often attached to the words that they are using to describe, they often are less emotionally attached to outcomes (double dissociation).
- Breathing: Sometimes lower abdomen
- Speech Rate: Sometimes slow
- Physical Cues: Reserved
- Predicates: Sensible, understand, calculate, analyse…
- Other Cues: Often not emotionally attached to outcomes
Enjoy and Have fun with this information.
Much Love
Living Your Power Now
Michael Sorgiovanni
by Michael Sorgiovanni | Apr 5, 2015 | Business, Lifestyle, Natural and Alternative, Physical Wellbeing, Psychological and Emotional Wellbeing, Relationships, Self Development & Success Skills, Spirituality
Making decisions by far is your most powerful asset which enables change. Things will not change in your life without the making a decision. Every experience you have and have had in life, where significant change and success occur, it is stemmed and created from a decision. Our dreams and desires become reality just from making one decision.
If there are areas in your life where you are not satisfied, all you have to do is start making some positive decisions to change them, this is your key to getting all you desire in life and becoming the person you want to be in the future.
Like anything in life that provides us with positive results and substance it usually takes a certain amount of commitment to see results.
“Decision-making is an act of choosing between two or more actions”.
Making a decision can be a difficult process for people and something we witness everyday whether it be in business and in other aspects of life. Some people just can’t make decisions, leaving others to make the decisions for them; resulting in an outcome they don’t necessarily want in life.
The truth of the matter is we are consistently making decisions everyday, sometimes its an unconscious decision, these daily decisions could be choosing between the apple or the banana or choosing what to wear. More in depth decisions are the one’s that change our lives, our future, wouldn’t it be great if these decisions were as easy to make as the simple day to day one’s.
Let’s discuss some ways that you can go about making life-changing decisions.
Realize your power to make decisions.
Before making any major decision in your life, check your decision making ability.
If you were to assess yourself on a daily basis on the decision’s you make in comparison to the ones you delegate or redirect to someone else because your not comfortable or even fearful, what would be the percentage? Acknowledging every decision that you make will be your first step to empowering your ability. Everyday you are put in situations that you must make a decision; if you don’t there will be consequences.
“With every decision there will be a consequence, whether it will be a positive one or negative one is up to you”.
A great way to view decision making is from the perspective that making a decision is like building a muscle, like any muscle, the more you train it, the stronger it becomes and the better the results will be.
Act upon your decisions.
There is no point in making a decision and not following it through. When you make a decision, you also need to take relevant actions to make it ‘real’.
A real decision has a cut off period, how long you think of something you create in your mind without following it through with actions, determines the outcome of it being a life changing decision or just a fantasy.
If you want to make some changes in life, then make it a habit to commit to your decisions, by taking action your thoughts and following it through until it is completed. By having consistent practice, you will be confident about your next decision.
Learn from your past decisions.
If you failed to follow through a decision and decide you’re ready for the desired outcome that lead to you making that decision initially; review the decision. Was there a reason subconsciously you hadn’t followed it through?
On the other hand, have you regretted an outcome from a decision you have made before and are now faced with again?
Ask yourself what you can learn to make a better decision next time.
Go with your instinct.
Some people take too much time to decide or are afraid of what will happen next. They go through all the pro’s and con’s of the decision, deep exploration and cautious planning. Bee confident and trust your instinct about your decisions.
Every life changing decision is made on an unconscious level so you need to start trusting your intuition.
You trust your unconscious mind to breath for you while you sleep at night and keep your heart beating… so there is no reason you can’t trust the first thought that comes to your mind.
Explore your options and select the best solution.
If you are satisfied with your decision, and it feels right then decide when you will ‘action’ it. Big decisions can have some risk factors, if you are unsure, you might want to use a risk analysis approach-prioritize and evaluate the best option to take. If it is a major decision you might want use some tools like the Decision Matrix Analysis Approach, this is particularly useful if you there is a lot to consider.
Have fun making decisions.
Sometimes the decision making process is not fun at all, but could be if you were to ‘decide’ to make it a fun experience. Treating it like a game and having fun with it, will expose a lot about yourself. It opens up your creative side.
Your decisions can have a profound effect later on. With every decision you make, be present, and acknowledge how it empowers you and makes you feel.
Much Love
Living Your Power Now
by Michael Sorgiovanni | Mar 4, 2015 | Lifestyle, Natural and Alternative, Physical Wellbeing, Psychological and Emotional Wellbeing, Self Development & Success Skills, Spirituality
All the complex chemical reactions of the body take place at the cellular level. For example, the building of new blood cells, sending of nerve signals or repairing of wounds. Moreover, the new cells replace old cells when they die, to ensure the proper and healthy functioning. However, everything that happens in the human body completely relies on nutrients. Among the 6 essential nutrients, Minerals and Vitamins are the two most important ones.
Difference between Vitamins and Minerals
Minerals are inorganic compound nutrients can be metabolized to release energy in the body. Vitamins are organic nutrients that are destructible. However, minerals cannot create energy and are indestructible, whereas organic nutrients can be destroyed or altered.
What is the Link between Vitamins and Mineral?
Vitamins and Minerals are often required to work together. For instance, Vitamin C and calcium works together in the process of depositing calcium in teeth, Vitamin D helps in raising the amount of phosphorous and calcium in the blood to ensure the presence of minerals to harden bones.
Essential Vitamins and Their Functions
Here is the list of some essential vitamins and minerals and their benefits for the body.
This vitamin is good for general growth and development, such as skin, healthy teeth and healthy eyes. The natural sources include sweet potatoes and carrots.
These vitamins are good for iron absorption, energy production and immune function. Some of the natural sources include molasses, whole grains, bananas, potatoes, lentils, beans, chili peppers and yeast.
This vitamin is good for strengthening blood vessels, iron absorption, anti-oxidant function and giving skin its elasticity. The major source of Vitamin C is citrus fruits.
Vitamin D is best for healthy and strong bone. Some major sources include sunlight, fish, eggs and mushrooms.
Vitamin E is good for protection from free radicals and blood circulation. The major source of Vitamin E is dry fruits.
Vitamin K is best for Blood coagulation. This Vitamin is generally found in leafy green vegetables.
Minerals and Their Functions
This mineral is good for preventing birth defects in pregnancy and cell renewal. Some of the sources of folic acid include corn, nuts, lentils, peas and beans.
Calcium is good for strong bones and teeth. The best source of Calcium is found in dark greens and dairy products
Iron is good for maintaining healthy blood and building muscles naturally. Iron can be found in spinach, lentils and beans.
Different Functions of Vitamins and Minerals
Vitamins do several jobs, as they are energy nutrients, such as acting as antioxidants and breaking down other nutrients. In contrast, minerals work mainly on the skeleton; however, they can also interact with water for regulating the pH balance in the body, transmission of nerve impulses and for the contraction of muscles. Vitamins are essential for the creation of red blood cells and Minerals are necessary to carry oxygen for oxygen through the blood.
Living Your Power Now
by Michael Sorgiovanni | Feb 23, 2015 | Business, Physical Wellbeing, Psychological and Emotional Wellbeing, Self Development & Success Skills, Spirituality
Are you someone that gets overwhelmed from the pressure and stress daily life can bring?
Do you find it difficult to focus and slow down your thoughts down?
Would you like to learn some simple strategies to add into your daily life that will help you focus, keep calm and feel at peace?
All I am going to be explaining to you in this article is how to remember to breathe…
The body can survive months with out food, days with out water but only a few minutes without breathing. Breathing is the foundation to life.
Thousands of years ago humans understood the importance of breathing in all areas of life; mentally, physically and spiritually. They utilised their breathing for so many purposes, ‘not just staying alive’. Breathing was utilised in ways like healing, manifestation, focus, relaxation and so on… There are certain ratio’s of breath they would use to generate the breath and energy to manifest what they intended to. I will explain more on this in one of my upcoming articles on ‘Ancient rituals’.
It is crucial to understand that breathing patterns affect our mental state because it is your mental state that will determine your wellbeing in your every day life.
The Psychology of Breathing
Your breathing rates are intertwined with your nervous system thus also interconnects with emotional states such as fear and caution vs calm and trust. This is internally and externally processed by the ‘fight or flight response– fast breathing vs the rest and digest response – slow breathing.’
In each individual our internal representation systems are different, meaning we all have our own favoured representation. You might be more of a Visual, Auditory, kinesthetic (feelings), or Auditory Digital (self talk).
A person with an internal favoured representation of Visual will usually breath at the top of their lungs and normally in a faster rate. An Auditory will usually breath in the middle and in a medium rate. Kinesthetic people typically breath from the bottom of their lungs so you’ll see their stomachs going in and out, and an Auditory Digital will sometimes breath from the lower abdomen.
Our favored representational system, becomes our own language for our experience and plays a significant part in our mental processes and consciousness.
Now you have an understanding of how your breathing is impacted, its impacts on your life and how it is linked to our mind, body and even on us spiritually.
Let’s look at spirituality…. Have any of you have experienced or researched the scientific effects meditating have on your wellbeing?
Let’s take a look at some simple breath techniques…
There is one thing that a lot of ‘ancient’ practices and so called ‘new age’ practices of breathing have in common, that is to receive the full richness and experience of a breath, the ratio of the breath. There are many diverse types of breathing exercises available but in this article I am going to keep it simple and focus solely on one aspect of breathing.
Your exhale should be double to what you inhale is, The ratio is 1:1:2. Meaning inhale for 4 seconds hold for 4 seconds and exhale for 8 seconds.
The ‘inhale and hold’ should always be through the nasal passage where a gas called Nitric Oxide is produced by the sinus mucous membranes in your nose and in small doses enhances your lung capacity significantly to absorb oxygen by 15-25%. Nitric Oxide also known to kill viruses, bacteria and other germs.
You then exhale through the mouth, exhaling for double the amount so it slows the exhalation. This extra time allows the lungs to extract a greater amount of oxygen and expand your lung capacity.
Note:
To get the best results every inhale breath should be a big belly breath, take that breath all the way to the bottom so your belly in sticking out.
Then you exhale slowly as though you are emptying your belly, sucking it back in.
If you are not comfortable with exhaling for 8 seconds then start off with 2 seconds in, 2 seconds hold and 4 seconds exhale slowly working your way up from there.
The more often you do this the more the benefits you will get.
Breathing can also be used as a ‘reset button’, so if you are ever in an overwhelming state just focus on your breathing ratio to get yourself in a calm state.
I recommend you make this a daily ritual. Start off by doing a minimum of 20 breaths each morning, maintain your full focus on just the breath. Be conscious of yourself and your presence in that moment.
I guarantee that this will kick start your day off by feeling calm, relaxed, centred and powerful.
Living Your Power Now
Michael Sorgiovanni
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