by Michael Sorgiovanni | Jul 19, 2015 | Psychological and Emotional Wellbeing, Quotes, Self Development & Success Skills
How was your yesterday?
What will your today be like?
You are given a fresh start today, it’s a new day and a chance to make it a wonderful one where you shine.
Challenge yourself today; make it a positive day, so positive that you only see, hear and feel the positive in everything situation.
Be present -> when you live in gratitude for all things we are present.
Open up your awareness to what your feeling inside your heart and what you see all around you, expand your prereferral vision, if your awareness is synch to how your feeling and what is happening around you then you are present and therefor there is no place for negative chatter to occur.
Today’s affirmation:
“I am a powerful loving being.”
Presence is Power!
Much Love
Michael Sorgiovanni
Transformational Coach
coach@michaelsorgiovanni.com
by Michael Sorgiovanni | Jul 4, 2015 | Business, Lifestyle, Natural and Alternative, Physical Wellbeing, Psychological and Emotional Wellbeing, Relationships, Self Development & Success Skills, Spirituality
“Self-respect is the root of discipline: The sense of dignity grows
with the ability to say no to oneself.”
Abraham Joshua Heschel
Self-Esteem issues have been on the rise for years and it is manifesting with children at such a young age. Whilst researching self-esteem I came across some interesting and disturbing statistics that I would like to share before I get into the solutions and how to transform your self-esteem.
- The average 2-year-old child hears 432 negative statements per day, but only 32 positive statements each day, according to a research study at the University of Iowa.
- 80% of children who are 10 years old are afraid of being fat. (Source)
- Obese boys and girls have significantly lower self-esteem than their non-obese peers. (Source)
- Up to 12% of teen boys are using unproven supplements and/or steroids. (Source)
- Nearly a quarter of girls age 15-17 would consider undergoing plastic surgery. (Source)
- 13 percent of girls age 15-17 acknowledge having an eating disorder. (Source)
- 7 in 10 girls believe they are not good enough or do not measure up in some way including their looks, performance in school and relationships. (Source)
- 80% of 10-year-old girls have dieted. 90% of high school junior and senior women diet regularly. Young girls are more afraid of becoming fat than they are of nuclear war, cancer, or losing their parents. (Source)
- The top wish among all girls is for their parents to communicate better with them, which includes, more frequent and more open conversations, as well as discussions about what is happening in their own lives. (Source)
This is a research conducted by Dove and it reveals the universal increase in beauty pressure:
- Only 4% of women around the world consider themselves beautiful (up from 2% in 2004)
• Only 11% of girls globally are comfortable using the word beautiful to describe themselves
• 72% of girls feel tremendous pressure to be beautiful
• 80% of women agree that every woman has something about her that is beautiful but do not see their own beauty
• More than half (54%) of women globally agree that when it comes to how they look, they are their own worst beauty critic.
We all have our own definition of what respect is and what it looks like. Some people believe it is about knowing your worth and some say it is about improving your esteem and honor. Respect is the key to any relationship and that holds truth in the most important relationship with yourself.
Difference between self-respect and self –esteem
Often people confuse between self respect and self esteem, thanks to the pop psychology that fails to highlight the marked difference between the two – how you think! Self esteem is a concept based on thinking whereas self respect is based on actions.
Self esteem is all about evaluating something, holding it in high regard. The problem with evaluation is that in our assessment, we sometimes lose and sometimes win. However, respect is all about acceptance. Self respect stems from who we are and not what we do. It is about standing tall and feeling pride in the person that we are. If you respect yourself, you will love who you are minus all the judgments.
A research conducted by Judith White and Johnny Walsch from Harvard University, they revealed that there are several advantages of respecting yourself. People that are caught up in the paradigm of high self esteem are often bested by the ones who respect themselves because they are less prone to blame, regret, lies, secrets and stress.
The problems that we face today with regards to self esteem are that there is far too much importance attached to how others interpret the way we look or act. Our lives should be dictated by what we want to do and not what someone else thinks is right or appropriate for us. This question of cultural self esteem and its impositions can be best answered by respecting yourself now more than ever. If you are able to respect who you are, you will be able to make a better version of yourself and that too by your free will. There will be no need to feel pressurized by social standards because all the changes that the society deems fit comes to you naturally. For instance, for someone who would respect their bodies will automatically do things to keep it healthy. You no longer need validation of others to do what you think is right because with self respect, you are able to eliminate the need for approval that can impact your life in so many ways.
“SELF-RESPECT KNOWS NO CONSIDERATIONS.”
MAHATMA GANDHI
If you are on your way to learning and earning respect from yourself then these steps may be helpful.
- Know yourself: The more you understand and accept yourself, the more you would know how unique you are in your own ways. This process of self discovery can be very exciting as you learn new things about who you are. Connecting with you emotionally and spiritually can be a great way to start.
- Accept who you are: it takes a lot of effort to accept who we are. It does not mean that you justify hubris by calling yourself perfect. It is all about being content with who we are and accept our imperfections, especially the ones that can’t be changed.
- Build self confidence: There is nothing more infectious than people who have the confidence to be the people they want to be. It is driven by deep respect for who we are. Start by maintaining positive body language and good posture. Smile more often and if you are complimented for something, accept it with a genuine smile.
- Always keep a positive attitude: Your success in life is all about the attitude you keep. Even if the things are not going the way you would want them to, it is your confidence that keeps you afloat. Always see the brighter side of the coin and you will eventually get what you set out for.
- Don’t be a part of rat race: Don’t beat yourself up because your friends have something you don’t. It is no reason to feel inadequate. Set your standards and work towards achieving the goals that you want to achieve.
- Stand by the choices you make: You need to have firm belief in all the decisions that you make. It is one thing to ask for advice and another to follow your own gut. A mix of two can be a very good combination if you have faith in your choices.
- Handle criticism with grace: learn to tell the difference between constructive feedback and an envious banter. While former will definitely help you in self improvement, the latter should be disregarded without a shred of doubt.
Apart from making these built in changes, you need to start treating yourself with more respect. Don’t let people push you around. Be honest with yourself and draw your own limits. Unless you define these lines, people will not know where to stop. Most importantly, take care of your mind, body & Soul. Read and learn to build you brain, Exercise your body it releases healthy hormones that make’s you feel radiant and confident from within, and meditate or pray to build your spirituality.
May this information have you take action on what is required for you to have the self-respect you deserve.
Much Love
Michael Sorgiovanni
Transformational Coach
coach@livingyourpowernow.com
by Michael Sorgiovanni | Jun 14, 2015 | Business, Lifestyle, Natural and Alternative, Physical Wellbeing, Psychological and Emotional Wellbeing, Self Development & Success Skills, Spirituality, Uncategorized
Are you in need for some motivation? Or do you think you need some more time to think about it?..:-)
Motivation would have to be one of the largest topics on the Internet in the context of self-improvement, and there are many great articles and recourses that will assist you. But.. There seems to be a misconception with some individuals and that is if someone that is lacking motivation in their life and has a severe case of procrastination means they have a psychological problem and require therapy. I mean there is no doubt that there is a greater issue to someone that has a severe case, but if it is just an issue with procrastination does is require a therapist or psychologist? I would say no!
Procrastination is merely a state just like motivation they both have emotions that drive them, and as I have mentioned in previous articles, any state you desire can be achieved in seconds.
In life there is always a positive in every situation and procrastination doesn’t necessarily have to be a negative it is sometimes required to get us to think logically before we make a decision, and prevent those regretful situations.
Then there’s that other type of procrastination the negative type “The Time Thief”. This type of procrastination does have a positive but it does require you to take action and get off your ass and do something as appose to nothing.
There are two types of Motivation and to have the best results in dealing with procrastination it would be to recognize which approach will work best for yourself and the situation.
- Towards Motivation: is when we put more emphasis on the benefits of doing something, we move towards a goal and it is our values and feelings that drive us in the context of what we are intending to achieve. We are driven by all the positive vision’s or feeling’s that will lead us to success.
- Away From Motivation: is when we put more emphasis on the negative results we might get by not taking action. We focus on the vision or feelings we would have if we failed or just didn’t do anything. This way is refereed to, as the negative way of motivation however is very necessary in some situations and individuals.
With self-motivation you can break new grounds, learn new things, change your circumstances and give your life new meaning.
Here are 10 ways to get motivated:
1. Mind
Engage your mind daily in something new and challenging. Try filling in a crossword, listen to new music, read a book and allow yourself to be challenged. Purpose to learn something new every single day.
2. Organize
Planning is important. When everything is disorganized it loses meaning. Plan ahead. Plan for the next day at work from what to wear to what to eat and you will anticipate to see that day so as to live through the activities you have planned.
3. Talk
Verbal communication is what makes the world go round. Make a new friend, talking to other people opens a new scope of thinking as you learn new cultures and new ways of doing things, and a new appreciation of life develops.
4. Insight
This refers to a new level of understanding. The only way to get insight is by being open to learn from others, being daring enough to take up new activities and get challenged. A broader understanding brings self-drive.
5. Variety
Doing the same things can be boring. Take a trip, change your wardrobe, change your hair or try out something new. Variety spices up your life. You will be surprised at the things you can do.
6. Attitude
Optimism cannot be over emphasized. To get motivated the glass should always be half full in your eyes. From the worst of circumstances, look for the very best and express gratitude.
7. Teach
Teaching what you know to somebody else brings satisfaction and spreads joy leaving you fulfilled and encourages you to know more.
8. Incentive
Reward yourself. A personal incentive encourages discipline.
9. Opportunity
When we look around us, there are a lot of things that we can do differently and change our circumstances. Cease every chance to better your life and learn new ways to grow and assist others.
10. Nurture
Improve on the skills you already and learn more every day. From the simplest of things like how to bake something new to the more complex things like learning how to play an instrument.
Motivation is all inside you. Your mind is your limitation.
Get a picture of what you want to achieve and see how it makes you feel, get right in that experience and hear what is going on there, really be associated and hold that picture in you mind and repeat this process over and over until you are there. This simple process will get you out of procrastination an into motivation.
Much Love
Michael Sorgiovanni
by Michael Sorgiovanni | May 30, 2015 | Lifestyle, Natural and Alternative, Physical Wellbeing, Psychological and Emotional Wellbeing
Vitamin D deficiency, as studies have shown, is one of the leading dietary deficiencies worldwide. It is especially predominate among women and children. Deficiency of vitamin D3 (cholecalciferol) is especially important in this regard. Through conversion to its active form 1, 25 dihydroxycholecalciferol, it helps to regulate calcium and phosphate metabolisms in the body. Vitamin D is of special importance in women of reproductive age and in pregnant ladies. Let us see how.
Vitamin D deficiency affects every 1 out of 4 women in the reproductive years of 19 to 45. Vitamin D3 is imperative for a healthy pregnancy and for normal development of the fetus. Vitamin D maintains normal serum levels of Calcium and phosphate, which are essential for
- Maintenance of normal bone density
- Normal muscle activity
- Cardiac contractility
- Gastrointestinal motility
- Neuronal activity
- Vascular functions
- Cellular growth and proliferation
- Immune responses
In addition to these, a myriad of other activities are dependent upon normal calcium metabolism by vitamin D along with calcitonin and Parathyroid Hormone (PTH). In women, vitamin D deficiency can lead to multiple disorders like
- Preeclampsia
- Eclampsia
- Insulin resistance
- Gravitational diabetes (pregnancy induced)
- Bacterial vaginosis
- Increased in the risk of C-sectional delivery
- Depressive disorders
- Increased risk of fractures, particularly hip fracture
- Increased risk of infections due to depressed immune system
- Hormonal irregularities
HOW VITAMIN D IMRPOVES INFERTILITY?
Vitamin D receptors have been found in human sperms, ovaries and placenta. Vitamin D, therefore, affects sperm motility and implantation. It also needed for normal ovulation. It also enhances the receptivity of uterus for implantation. Normal levels of vitamin D are essential for successful conception and implantation via in vitro fertilization.
Another process through which vitamin D aids fertilization is by lowering the levels of estradiol and progesterone as high levels of estrogen have been related to infertility. By strengthening the immune system, vitamin D also improves infertility cases due to auto-immune disorders. It also protects the body against Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS), which is one of the leading causes of infertility in women.
Thus normal serum concentration of vitamin D helps women in getting pregnant. Statistics have shown that 93% of the women with infertility issues suffer from vitamin D deficiency.
OTHER BENEFITS OF VITAMIN D IN WOMEN
- Vitamin D also protects against the breast cancer by causing down regulation of genes involved in carcinogenesis. It causes apoptosis of cancerous cells and thus, is an important part of anti-cancer regimes.
- By strengthening the bones, vitamin D significantly lowers the risk of bone fractures.
- Vitamin D boosts the immunity and thus, protects against infections and prevents inflammatory disorders.
- By regulating the levels of hormones in the body, vitamin D prevents insulin resistance and gestational diabetes.
Vitamin D supplementation and sunlight exposure are recommended in such women as vitamin D helps regulate calcium levels not only in women but also in the developing fetus. In the babies, it helps in normal development of skeleton and teeth. A dietary intake of 1000 IU per 25 pounds of body weight is, therefore, recommended to protect against the adverse effects of vitamin D deficiency, especially in women of reproductive age.
Living Your Power Now
by Michael Sorgiovanni | May 24, 2015 | Physical Wellbeing, Psychological and Emotional Wellbeing, Self Development & Success Skills, Uncategorized
Would you like to feel energised in your daily life and not feel tired and drained?
Physical fitness is the most important tool for keeping your body young and active and to play a vital role in your daily activities. It prevents your body from many avoidable issues like overweight, laziness, dullness and many other negative impacts that can harm your mind and body. Research has shown that exercising regularly will deliver a mental and emotional boost. It improves your mood, bolsters your self-esteem, and gives you confidence to handle whatever comes your way. Some studies show that it also enhances the functioning of your brain and can greatly alleviate and in some cases prevent the symptoms of depression. It has uncountable effects and benefits to your health. Below are just a few benefits to gain by training.
Exercise Controls Weight
Exercise or training is very helpful regarding your weight control or weight loss. With physical training you burn your excess calories that are one of the causes of overweight. You do more exercise and you will burn your more calories. There are many ways and types of exercises such as running, jogging, weights, or taking training from a physical trainer who will give you various tips so that you may have a better training. Building muscle is important in the process of loosing weight, when your muscles grow it illuminates the capacity for fat cells to grow or be fed. We all know that fat does not turn into muscle but by building the muscle that fat will dissipate, as it is not being fed. The male and female body form very different in weight training and what is clear is women don’t get big they tone where as men seem to grow in mass.
Training Battle Health Condition and Diseases
In today’s busy and exhausting life we have not enough time to properly care our health. There are many diseases like heart problems, cholesterol increase, high blood pressures, hypertensions and other life threatening issues that everyone is facing nowadays. What training and the exercises do to counter all these problems is that it regulates your blood level very well and burns the extra fats in your body that are the main cause of all above mentioned problems. If you have a smooth blood flow in your body, so you are at low risk to prevent these diseases. Physical training and exercises can regulate your blood level with great ease and calmness so it is very much important for you to have a proper exercises schedule in your daily life.
Training gives you Energy
It is quite sure that regular exercises can give enormous strength to your muscles and as a result your energy level also rises and keeps you active and healthy. Training supplies oxygen and required blood to your body muscles more efficiently. Thus, your different body parts like heart, lungs, kidneys and all other parts somehow produces energy that you require. So for all these positive results and to have an active and energetic life, it is quite important that you must follow up exercises and training well if you want to live a healthy positive life.
Better Sleep
As exercises and training can regulate your blood level and supplies oxygen to your muscles. So, if you have all these things working perfectly, then you will sleep well and that guarantees a sound healthy condition. For a perfect health it is advised that you must sleep about 6 to 8 hours daily. A good night’s rest can make you less fatigued and better able to function in your daily life.
One of the best psychological benefits of exercise is just feeling great overall. One could argue that this is a physical benefit of exercise, however the psychological benefits greatly contribute to this overall great feeling.
Much Love
Michael Sorgiovanni
by Michael Sorgiovanni | May 17, 2015 | Physical Wellbeing, Psychological and Emotional Wellbeing, Relationships, Self Development & Success Skills, Spirituality, Uncategorized
In Life we are blessed with the ability to make choices, we can choose how we want to feel, we can choose what direction we travel in, and we can choose who we surround and share our lives with. One thing is guaranteed that every choice made will have a consequence, whether it will be a positive or negative consequence is determined by your choice.
There are two main directions you may travel in life; one being the “Victim” and the other the “Victor” . As humans we are born a victim, and it is through our schooling, our religion, our society that teaches us how to become a better victim in life. So many people will find more excuses for why they didn’t do something they wanted to do.
As spiritual being’s having a human experience we can’t but help being curious, and it is when we see a different perspective that feels right, we tune into the Victor. The Victor is the winner, he see’s truth and balance and seeks solutions to issues at hand. The Victor knows that responsibility is the key to freedom.
Who do you choose to be in your life?
The Victim or
The Victor.
Your were born to choose and live as the Victor.
Much Love
Michael Sorgiovanni
Living Your Power Now
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