If you take the time to think about what’s going into your profile, you’ll create something that other people will want to read.
So many people put the least amount of energy into this but have the highest performance expectations of their dating profile.
A carefully planned, well-written profile can get you lots of responses, where a couldn’t be bothered, careless one won’t. Many people who have trouble with online dating can trace their difficulties back to a poor profile.
You don’t have to be a prize-winning author or a celebrity to get a date.
Writing a profile is an art and you want it to be an expression of the best you. Your profile needs to be very catchy, it must also reflect your personality in the first place. Your profile should arouse temptation for other people to look at your profile and have the interest to contact you. That’s why you are on an online dating site, right?
Here are 7 tips to get your profile more genuine and attractive:
Picture Positive
Since your profile reflects your personality, you must be careful while creating it. It must reflect the positive side of your personality. Nobody likes a negative nancy at the best of times, so don’t share the negative shades in you.
Make it exciting
Why should someone take an interest in you if you do not sound exciting? This does mean you have to be an extrovert, it means you have to show your excitement towards what you like. You can create a list of your interests and hobbies. Be specific, not too long and refrain from using overused words and phrases. Mention interests which you think would be exciting to the opposite sex. Remember, simple and boring profiles are over-looked many times.
Be Real
Make your profile one that a person wants to learn more about you because you seem genuine and real. Stay away from robotic and false information because it can minimise your chances of getting good responses. If you mention facts about yourself, be genuine in disclosing them.
Honesty is the best policy
While filling up the columns for your personal habits and marital status, be honest in disclosing about your height, body type, smoking and drinking habits, and marital status. And be honest on what you are looking for out of a match, are you looking for marriage, kids or a partner. This will filter out the time-wasters.
Give a little humour
This is not an invitation for the comedians to go haywire all over the profile. Most people have humour as a quality they are searching for in a partner. You can make it simple by adding in a self-deprecating line, telling a joke or even adding a song title into your description. Including a bit of humour in your profile can go a long way to grab someone’s attention.
Upload quality photos
I have said this many times to my clients if you take the emotion and judgement out of this phrase “you are essentially selling yourself on the first sight”. We are very visual orientated beings so the importance of having great profile photos can improve your chances by 15 times for getting responses quickly than those without. It is a fact that people prefer to read profiles having great photos and contact them.
For the online dating sites that allow you to post more than one photo, there is a sweet spot in between 3 and 5. No less than 3 and no more than 5. Make sure they are good quality and remember you are selling. My suggestions for what seems to be getting the best results. 1. Face shot good quality maybe professional if you have one, note: avoid selfies. 2. Have a travel shot or an adventure shot. 3. Have a fully clothed body shot. 4. Pick a fun one or another one from the first 3 suggestions. Keep a lookout as I will have another article on this topic coming soon.
Call to action
A successful profile has a call to action on it, it could have a cheeky message like “there is only so much I can share on a profile so if you want to find out more you should probably ask” or it could be a line about the kind of people you would like to message you. If you are looking to create a real connection then you must be my man so send me a question. I hope you get my point. By doing this is can tend to get them curious.
Hope you enjoyed this article and if you have any questions comment down below.
Love and live
Michael
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